Happy father's day!!!!

As we celebrate father's day, a thot about my father and fatherhood:

Sunday is father's day and I am especially happy to be spending that day with my dad. My father is one of the bestest men in the world ever! He is a wonderful man, father, brother,husband, friend and confidante.

I'm the woman I am today because of the relationship I have with my pops!.

From birth he always rooted for me, he is my biggest cheerleader, When family members thought as a girl he should stop investing in me by paying for expensive private schools, and groom me to get married early 'archaic igbo myth and culture', he did otherwise and opened a trust fund instead in my name to pay my tuition regardless, incase if anything happened to him and no one agreed to pay my school fees.

He sat by my bedside and cried, when I Had surgery for appendicitis and didn't wake up hours later , he thought I had died, I was just enjoying the high of the drugs.

He didn't give up on me when I was intubated for a bad case of asthma and was declared dead, he picked me up and shook me out of the coma, while my mum told them to arrange for a burial, that she had 6 other kids and won't run mad over one sickly child ( still remember every word of that statement even though I was all of 9 years old! Parents be careful the choice of words you speak on your kids) I still have issues with my mum till date over that day!

In all, my father has been my rock, he got me into writing poetry at an early age, on every trip abroad while growing up, my dad would buy everyone else toys and buy me books on poetry. And when I decided to opt out of writing and the dream of going to law school and veer into banking, he still gave me the go ahead with his blessings.

I am balanced today as a woman because I have the love of my father, no matter what I have been through with men, I hold on to the fact that there are men like my father out there, men who are secure in their manhood and given to family and serving God.

As we celebrate father's day this year, I am moved to say a prayer for men out there, who abandoned their children either because they can or cannot afford to care for them. Sometimes the only thing a child remembers Is the smile on your face, when they try to pedal a trainer bicycle and fall, or both of you holding hands or praying together at night.

Let us not always quantify the love of a child with money. Children are gifts from God and believe me when I tell you that the good lord takes care of his own. He never gives us what we can not carry. For that woman who is struggling with those children, I implore you to hold on to the lord who neither sleeps me nor slumbers. He will wipe those tear from your eyes. You will reap the fruits of your labor. There will be ex husbands, Ex wifes, ex boyfriends , ex girlfriends and even ex friends but there are no ex children.

I pray to God to turn the hearts of men back to their children, the bible says that a wise man leaves an inheritance for his children's children. Let us use wisdom in the things of this world and remeber that our time here is borrowed, from dust we came and to dust we shall all return. What will posterity remember you for? A good man who loved and left an inheritance for generations after him or for the shameless twerp who had various baby mamas and didn't mean a damn thing to his numerous children who never met him.

I'm just saying fellas if the shoe fits then check yourself for real, get your ish together, you might just save a child's life, you never know!

As always, my 2 cents!

C'est moi...