Why men lie!!
Men lie for various reasons! Of Importance is that it could be out of necessity, or in most cases lack of anything sensible or true to say.
I'm not going to justify anyone's frivolities but I will base my argument on actual events and facts.
A man will lie about size, it could be his shoe size, height, penis size, how long he can last in bed, the last time he had sex, how many women he's been with, if he's married or has a girlfriend. They mysteriously develop selective amnesia. it's like looking to find out what happend in Vegas!! You go wait long......
Let's start from the beginning,At the point of introduction, that gentleman will do anything humanly possible to make you happy, especially if you ain't "give it up yet. Massage your feet, pick up your laundry, designated driver. He'll even whip out his cards at mall and like a pimp tell you "go on baby! It's all bout you, pick anything you want".
Cross that border and homeboy starts forgetting his wallet at home or in his car.
Even when you do give it up, he goes on and on about how he can keep it up for days. How he got a 16 inch tool to work with. Fast forward action time, homeboy gets in and like a one way bus pass, gets right out.
You're like WTF!! Are you serious, he'll be like baby, "I'm sorry, I was too excited. It's just that you're so beautiful, your skin is like silk"
You think, well if you put it like that, I guess I believe you.Next time he lasts all of 2 minutes, ladies, this is when you should count your losses and lose home boy!
Men lie about their feelings everytime, initially they are so into you, they call, text, come around, buy flowers and expensive gifts. How do you define why he suddenly stops being expressive. How do you define making you look simple, when he stops returning calls and constantly lies about where he is and his state of mind. In all honesty he might not want to hurt your feelings. Feck the honesty, tell it straight, I'm a big girl, I'll take the fact that you found someone else or just mysteriously lost the same number you used to call 5 times a day.
Men will lie about moving on, he might have found someone else, you might be dealing with all sorts of challenges in the relationship, you can thaw it out with him and hope his mood swings stop, but when you decide to get to stepping, he wants to come back cos he aint found anyone like you.
Why do they do that? why would you hold on to something you are not sure of and then choose to return it at your convinience, this is not a store with flexible return policies. These are human emotions and feelings.
I had a conversation with a certain guy "around town" from my unilag days a few days ago. He claims women get into a laision with all these expectations. According to him, the fact that we slept together does not necesarily spell "love and marriage". Well how about a rain check next time and a warning that you're a walking time bomb, that has a phobia for commitment.
It is said that Sex is the easiest thing to get on the streets,how about a commitment? how about the beauty of saving yourself for the one true love of your life, assuming he thinks same of you. How about telling it like it is? How about falling in love for all the genuine reasons. When a woman meets a man,if it all comes together, she falls in love hopelessly. When a man meets a woman and it all comes together, I just wonder.....
20 comments:
LOL...Loving this....But is it really fair to say this? You should do a post on women and our lies...I am a size 10. I have only been with 2 men. I a celibate. I like your mother. I dont care that you smoke...etc...
Excellent post
God bless you Uzo :)
@Uzo,
I am a straight shooter and weill deal with all that concerns shicks, I lie and I'm sure every woman does,but I will tacke why women lie and the truth about celibacy. Thanks for stopping by.
@Ugo,
God bless you too...
All I can say is hmmm and you know why. Thx
Ah! with my state of mind at the moment, I totally agree with you oh! hehehheheheh make I laugh well well, "you will wake up sometimes to feel my tongue in you" hehehehehe laugh wan kill ...abeg, let me not even remember, the memory is too painful.
By the way, thank you so much for all your advice on my blog. It was really appreciated, you gave me words of wisdom when I was confused, hurt, mad...the list goes on... thank you so much!
@Set,
Hmmmm.....I feel you sista!
@Waffarian,
My sista,you know I say men are really not worth the accolades we give them most times.
You just make him extra important. If homeboy wants to act like a child, by all means treat him like a damn child. I understand your pain and agony and I speak for all women who have been there, it is hard.. very hard but we get over it and we move on to better and bigger things and leave little boys to play little boys games...c'est la vie..
Why does a certain line from "A Few Good Men" come to mind?
Alright here's a less cryptic answer. It works. If men could get what they want without lies, you'll get the truth. Besides you listen too much, watch more instead. Actions can't lie.
preach sistah preach, nice post.
@Mochafella,
What use is your actions when your heart tells different. How do you quantify affection just by say good sex..I want to know your heart in the right place before I can relate on any level and I know my sisters feel the same.
@psykotikdiva,
I intend to ma, I'm starting a movement. Thanx fo stopping by.
Err, you've lost me, we were talking about lies. My education stopped at grade school you know.
Anyway, one's actions and heart usually aren't discordant, its typically one's mouth and heart/actions that are.
You can't quantify affection by sex. Does sex==(love&affection)? For men it doesn't. In fact in a lot of cases sex has nothing to do with how I feel about you good or bad. Women are wired differently, men get this and we get around it with, you guessed it...lies.
Women typically don't get this, hence the grief.
WHY DO WOMEN LIE?
@Mochafella,
Bros, I don't get your argument! yes sex does not mean anything to men hence the grief on our part. But if you want a jumpoff, say so. The chick in question might just be with it as opposed to lying off your teeth about feeling me when you don't.
@Ijeoma,
I got you babes, just for you, I blogged about why women lie, aren't you special.
True, nuff said.
@Mochafella,
Hear ye! Hear ye!!
I LOVE THIS!!!!
Its so true. I can't wait for a real man. One that'll stick through the hail storms and typhoons of life and come out like...hey baby, where you at?
The whole idea of pulling the rain-check is so stupid. If you see something you want hold on and be man about it. I don't even have the heart for it anymore. I'm closing my tab. Next!
Why do women say they love you so sincerely, then a few days later leave you for some other guy? At least with a guy you can tell when he's lying. Women base whole relationships on lies, hurt and cripple you emotionally in the worst ways imaginable. Plot, manipulate, deceive, twist. Hard to see past the evil for me, I haven't met one girl, friend or gf who didn't lie to me about her feelings and manipulate me.
MikePaahana Why Do Men Lie?
I was lied to. When I first met Mike he was so friendly the kindest, funniest person around. He made me feel special like I was the center of his world. He told me he was still going to school. I bought him a computer which he broke then took mine, now its full of viruses from pornographic sites, he used my email to subscribe to adult material, he told me his truck broke so he had no way of seeing me, I paid for the parts to fix his truck then sold the truck, he said he bought a moped to go to school, I paid to fix that too. He said he was just out of a bad relationship, he was still with the girl! He said he was going to leave her, he just did not want to break her heart. How could I have been so naïve to all the lies. Besides all of the money he stole my trust, he stole my heart with all of his lies. All men lie, they will tell you anything for sex. I know its my fault but he was different, yeah right. Some BOYS will never grow out of their hormone induced adolescents. I hope someday he finds out what it is like to be used, to be deceived……
Why Do Men Lie?
I was lied to. When I first met Mike he was so friendly the kindest, funniest person around. He made me feel special like I was the center of his world. He told me he was still going to school. I bought him a computer which he broke then took mine, now its full of viruses from pornographic sites, he used my email to subscribe to adult material, he told me his truck broke so he had no way of seeing me, I paid for the parts to fix his truck then sold the truck, he said he bought a moped to go to school, I paid to fix that too. He said he was just out of a bad relationship, he was still with the girl! He said he was going to leave her, he just did not want to break her heart. How could I have been so naïve to all the lies. Besides all of the money he stole my trust, he stole my heart with all of his lies. All men lie, they will tell you anything for sex. I know its my fault but he was different, yeah right. Some BOYS will never grow out of their hormone induced adolescents. I hope someday he finds out what it is like to be used, to be deceived……
here is why ;)
http://fwdemails.com/2007/09/24/why-do-men-lie/
I am a 44 y/o woman and I am on my third marriage. I thought it was happy and full of total trust and truth.
As usual I was blinded by this aweful 4 letter word called LOVE...
I have come to realize that all men are untrustworthy liars. Even when they are caught.
I have always been fully honest, trustworthy and totally committed to every one of my marriages and relationships but not a single man ever in my life has been even close to doing so.
Not a single man on earth is worth risking your heart...EVER!!!
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